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Monday, September 17, 2018

Worst Relationship Advice About Marriage

Worst Relationship Advice About Marriage

I am a woman that has been successfully married for 20 years. I have been with my husband for 21 years total. My knowledge based is on my own experiences as well as years of experience with family, friends, and clients that came to me for advice about life, career, relationships, and loss of direction. I specialize in helping people identify and achieve their personal goals by coping with the issues that are causing them distress. 



When you marry someone, it should be because you want them, not because you need them. Your spouse is an addition to your life, not a completion to your partial self. You should already be a complete, healthy human being that can function completely without being in a relationship with anyone. If that's not the case, you need to work on yourself before you jump into a relationship. Otherwise, it's really not fair to them and they won't make you happy. Think about it. Why would you want to marry half of a person? No one should complete you.




In a poll, according to relationship experts, the worst relationship advice you can give anyone about marriage is to tell them that their spouse is supposed to make them happy. No, you're supposed to make yourself happy. Thinking that your partner is supposed to make you happy is damaging to a relationship. If you're not in a relationship, what that does is make you wait around for that magical, perfect person that will take all your sadness away. So, you're waiting for a fairytale prince or princess? When that person doesn't "make you happy", you'll have more conflicts and arguments. That's an unhealthy approach to any relationship. Happiness comes from inside of you. If you weren't happy before you got married, you won't be happy after you get married either.



Your spouse is supposed to be a healthy human being, just like you. As two healthy human beings, you will have mutual love and respect for each other. However, at the end of the day, no one will respect you more than you respect yourself. If your spouse is causing you any harm either physically, mentally, or emotionally, then it is up to you to love and respect yourself enough to seek help to repair the marriage or to move on with your life. No, I am not saying that is an easy task, but those are your two healthy options.



Marriage is a full-time job so you can't go at it half a** or part-time. It requires selflessness and commitment by both individuals. You have to be actively participating. If that's not for you then don't get married. You could have all the money in the world and still be a miserable person. You could have a wonderful partner and still be unhappy. With that said, marriage amplifies or adds to the happiness that's already inside of you; it doesn't create it. If you want to be happy, work on your self-development. Start by learning to be happy by yourself. You are worth it! The sooner you believe that, the happier you'll be.

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Friday, September 14, 2018

Simple Vegan Biscuit Recipes


What are we eating today? How about some delicious vegan butter biscuits or vegan coconut biscuits?! Cool? Okay. Now, if you want your biscuits to be gluten-free, you can substitute the flour for a gluten-free version. So, find your favorite gluten-free flour then come and join me in the kitchen.

These recipes are simple and easy to make. Unlike store bought biscuits that have a long list of ingredients with names you can't even pronounce, these biscuits have only 3 or 4 ingredients. Best of all, they're delicious, way healthier than the alternatives, and vegan. You can have these biscuits for any meal. That reminds me--a high protein gravy recipe would go nicely with biscuits. Let's save that idea for another blog post. Now, let's get started.


VEGAN BUTTER BISCUITS

Ingredients:

* I use the Earth Balance brand

Tools
  • Bowl
  • Fork (or mixer or pastry blender)
  • Rolling pin
  • Biscuit cutter (or an  empty can)
  • Cookie sheet


Directions
  1. Preheat the oven to 450℉.
  2. While the oven is heating, mix the salt and the flour together in a bowl.
  3. Use a fork or a mixer (or pastry blender) to mix the flour and butter.
  4. Add and mix increments of 1/4 cup of cashew milk to the flour until all the milk is gone. The dough will be sticky.
  5. Knead the dough, roll it in a ball, and then use the rolling pin to roll it out about 1/2 inch thick.
  6. Use a biscuit cutter or empty can to cut the biscuits out and place them on the cookie sheet. You may need to do #5 again with the remaining pieces until all the dough is gone.
  7. Bake biscuits for at least 15 minutes. Remove them from the oven, let them cool for a little bit, then enjoy!

VEGAN COCONUT BISCUITS
Ingredients:

**Try substituting 1/4 cup with coconut flour if you have any

Tools
  • Bowl
  • Fork (or mixer or pastry blender)
  • Rolling pin
  • Biscuit cutter (or an empty can)
  • Cookie sheet
Directions
  1. Preheat the oven to 425℉.
  2. While the oven is heating, use a fork or a mixer (or a pastry blender) to mix the flour and coconut oil in a bowl.
  3. Add and mix increments of 1/4 cup of coconut milk to the flour until all the milk is gone. The dough will be sticky.
  4. Knead the dough, roll it in a ball, and then use the rolling pin to roll it out about 1/2 inch thick.
  5. Use a biscuit cutter or empty can to cut the biscuits out and place them on the cookie sheet. You may need to do #5 again with the remaining pieces until all the dough is gone.
  6. Bake biscuits for at least 10 minutes. Remove them from the oven, let them cool for a little bit, then enjoy!


Comment below and let me know what you think about these two recipes. Do you want to see more vegan food ideas on my blog? Then message me on Facebook. Talk soon. 

Monday, September 10, 2018

7 Best Books to Read for a Millionaire Mindset



So, you want to be a millionaire? You dream of leaving your job, of being your own boss, and living the millionaire lifestyle that you see on TV. You know that's what you want, but there's one small problem, you don't know how to attain it.

Here's the thing: everything starts and ends with your mindset--it's the determination of that mind that drives you to make your dream a reality. If you're thinking and operating on the mindset of a poor or middle-class person, you will produce the end results of that mindset. Your attitude and actions reflect your mindset.



When setting up your reading schedule, make sure you read at least 10 pages a day. The more you read on self-improvement, the more capable your mindset will be at attaining the goal of being a millionaire. With that said, if time permits, read more. These books are not in any order of importance; they each have their own merits at driving home the main concept. However, they are in my recommended reading order:
  • The Richest Man in Babylon by George S. Clason
    • "The success secrets of the ancients--an assured road to happiness and prosperity."
  • The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale
    • "An unabridged edition to include the text from both the audio and subsequent video version of Earl Nightingale's 'The Strangest Secret,' considered one of the greatest motivational works ever compiled."
  • Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
    • "It was the first book to boldly ask, "What makes a winner?" The man who asked and listened for the answer, Napoleon Hill, is now counted in the top ranks of the world's winners himself. The most famous of all teachers of success spent "a fortune and the better part of a lifetime of effort" to produce the "Law of Success" philosophy that forms the basis of his books and that is so powerfully summarized in this one."
  • Three Feet From Gold by Sharon L. Lechter and Greg S. Reid
    • "A fresh, modern look at the core theme of Napoleon Hill's revolutionary best seller. In this inspiring contemporary fable, a young writer sets out to interview business leaders and other influential figures about the importance of persistence in attaining your goals. Through motivational real-life stories, Three Feet from Gold offers advice about having passion for what you do, finding your own Success Formula, choosing good counsel, and above all: never giving up."
  • Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki
    • "Robert Kiyosaki shares the story of his two dads: his real father, whom he calls his ‘poor dad,’ and the father of his best friend, the man who became his mentor and his ‘rich dad.’ One man was well educated and an employee all his life, the other’s education was “street smarts” over traditional classroom education and he took the path of entrepreneurship…a road that led him to become one of the wealthiest men in Hawaii. Robert’s poor dad struggled financially all his life, and these two dads—these very different points of view of money, investing, and employment—shaped Robert’s thinking about money."
  • Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker
    • "In his groundbreaking Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker states: "Give me five minutes, and I can predict your financial future for the rest of your life!" Eker does this by identifying your "money and success blueprint." We all have a personal money blueprint ingrained in our subconscious minds, and it is this blueprint, more than anything, that will determine our financial lives. You can know everything about marketing, sales, negotiations, stocks, real estate, and the world of finance, but if your money blueprint is not set for a high level of success, you will never have a lot of money—and if somehow you do, you will most likely lose it! The good news is that now you can actually reset your money blueprint to create natural and automatic success."
  • A Whole New Mind by Daniel H. Pink
    • "The future belongs to a different kind of person with a different kind of mind: artists, inventors, storytellers-creative and holistic "right-brain" thinkers whose abilities mark the fault line between who gets ahead and who doesn't."
    • "Drawing on research from around the world, Pink outlines the six fundamentally human abilities that are absolute essentials for professional success and personal fulfillment--and reveals how to master them. A Whole New Mind takes readers to a daring new place, and a provocative and necessary new way of thinking about a future that's already here."
That's all I have for you today. Happy Reading!

Thursday, September 6, 2018

Vacations Are Good for Your Health

Vacations Are Good for Your Health

As an American, when was the last time you traveled outside the United States? Or your home state for that matter? Have you ever traveled abroad? If not, what's stopping you? 


Did you know that taking a vacation is actually good for your health? I'm not talking about traveling for business; that's not a vacation. I'm talking about letting everything go and vacationing for adventure, fun, and relaxation.


I read an ABC article recently about a survey that they conducted this year. It stated that following: 1 in 10 Americans have never left their home state, 54% have visited 10 or less US states, 40% have never left the country, 30% have not bought a new luggage in 6 or more years, and 13% of Americans have never flown in an airplane.

Most studies agree that when asked "why" to the lack of traveling, the main reason is cost. So, in this post, not only am I going to tell you the health benefits of vacationing more, but I'm also going to show you a way to vacation for cheaper.



Most articles you read about encouraging people to travel abroad focuses on Europe. I highly recommend that you do not restrict yourself to one extra continent. Part of the health of traveling is to visit outside your own culture. So, for a healthier life, try stepping outside your comfort zone.

Health and well-being benefits of taking a vacation:
  • Reduced Risk of Heart-Related Deaths
    • A study conducted by the Global Commission on Aging and Transamerica Center for Retirement Studies found that women who vacation at least twice a year show a significantly lower risk of a heart attack than those who only travel every six years or more. Men who do not vacation annually show a 20% higher risk of death and 30% higher risk of heart disease.
  • Relieves Stress
    • According to one study, to relieve stress, a prescription of at least 3 days of vacation is required. Physical complaints, quality of mood and sleep improves as well. The effects last for five weeks afterward. Sure, you might encounter some stress while waiting at the airport, but when you get to your destination, it will be so worth it! You get to recharge and start again.
  • Reduces the Risk of Depression
    • According to a study from the Marshfield Clinic in Wisconsin, women who vacation at least twice a year are less likely to suffer from depression and chronic stress. It helps you to learn to love life again.
  • Increases Happiness and Satisfaction
    • According to a Cornell University study, happiness and satisfaction increase from the planning stage of the trip to the vacation itself. Just think about it.
  • Strengthen Bonds
    • According to a study by the Arizona Department of Health and Human Services, women who took vacations were more satisfied with their marriages. Spending time enjoying life with your loved ones builds lasting bonds and priceless memories.
  • Enhanced Creativity
    • A number of studies were conducted at Columbia Business School to research the link between international travel and creativity. Creativity is enhanced by multicultural engagement, immersion, and adaptation.
  • Job Performance
    • With the increased quality of life from vacationing for at least 3 days, comes increased work performance, as well. Vacationing helps alleviate burnout and lack of creativity.

CHALLENGE!
I challenge you to make a list of 3 countries that you've never visited; each must be from a different continent. Then, pick one state you've never been to and add it to that list. Guess what? We just started your bucket list! Write your 4 places in the comments section below. Each time you travel to one of those destinations, come back and let me know which one and where you're headed to next.

Should you accept this challenge, I've listed two countries from four continents below to help you with your bucket list challenge. The vacations below are from DreamTrips courtesy of sponsor ID 71059467. You have to be a member to participate. Click here for details on membership. 


Click here to ask me how you can get your membership for free and how you can visit the destinations below for free.

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ere are some packages to consider. If these prices are still not in your price range, you can look at packages as low as $84:
  • Africa: the packages I chose for this continent are $300 or less per person; however, you are welcome to view higher priced packages and/or look at longer vacation days.
    • Natural Beauty in Drakensberg, South Africa:
      • 3 days and 2 nights at Cathedral Peak Hotel (taxes included in price), welcome reception buffet, 2 breakfasts, 2 dinners, 9 hole game of golf, fitness center, table tennis, game room, etc. 
        • Additional inclusions for platinum members. 
      • Members pay $184/person total for the package.
      • Click here for more information. Other activities at the hotel that are not included in the price include four separate tours, restaurant, and bars.
      • Other package options in South Africa that are $300 or less (most are below $200) include Family Fun, Zipline the Mountains, Fun & Respite, Hot Air Balloon, DreamBreak, Resort Fun, Safari Tour, etc.
    • Walk with Lions in Gweru, Midlands, Zimbabwe:
      • 3 days and 2 nights at Antelope Park, lion walk with guides and handlers, lion feeding, park entrance fee (included), welcome reception with alcoholic & non-alcoholic drinks, 2 breakfasts (overlooking the lake), 1 lunch, 2 dinners (one of the dinners is a welcome dinner; overlooking the lake), support team, outdoor pool, etc. 
        • Trip discount available for platinum members. 
      • Members pay $179/person total for the package.
      • Click here for more information. Other activities at the hotel that are not included in the price include elephant interactions, horseback riding, fishing and game drives, a bar, and a restaurant.
      • Other package options in Zimbabwe that are less than $300 include River & Rainforest Sites, Sunset Cruise, and National Park Adventures.
  • Asia: the packages I chose for this continent are $500 or less per person; however, you are welcome to view higher priced packages and/or look at longer vacation days.
    • Natural Beauty in Hangzhou, Zhejiang Sheng, China:
      • 4 days and 3 nights at InterContinental Hangzhou, English or Chinese speaking guide for a full day of Hangzhou cultural tours (museum, boat ride on the canal, tea plantation, & electric vehicle by lake), complimentary welcome drink and water bottle, 3 breakfast, 1 lunch (during tours), 2 dinners (one is a welcome dinner and the other is during the tours), support team, airport transportation, indoor pool, health club, lobby lounge, etc. 
        • Another tour and lunch (during the tour) on the 3rd day for platinum members only. 
      • Members pay $439/person for the total package.
      • Click here for more information. Other activities at the hotel that are not included in the price include a spa, sauna and steam bath, hydrotherapy, massage services, and restaurants.
      • Other package options in China that are less than $500 include DreamBreak, Rich History of Chongqing, Engage Your Senses, Natural & Cultural Diversity, Ocean Creatures & Historic Landmarks, Fun & Games at a Private Beach, Natural Beauty (various cities), etc.
    •  Sightsee & Snorkel in Langkawi, Malaysia:
      • 5 days and 4 nights at the Berjaya Langkawi Resort, full day tour (gratuities included), half day island tour (gratuities included), English or Malaysian speaking guide, welcome drinks, 4 breakfast, 1 lunch, 1 dinner, support team, airport transportation, outdoor pool, fitness center, beach activities, kids club, lounge, etc.
        • Platinum members get an island hopping tour.
      • Members pay $489/person for the total package.
      • Click here for more information. Other activities at the hotel that are not included in the price include a spa, bars, and restaurants.
      • Other package options in Malaysia that are less than $500 include DreamBreak; Caves, Towers & More; Archipelago by Water & Land; Uncover Colorful Heritage; Experience the City & Beach; Orangutans & City Tours; City Sites, Caves & Cable Cars; and City & Coastal Fun.  
  • Europe: the packages I chose for this continent are $500 or less per person; however, you are welcome to view higher priced packages and/or look at longer vacation days.
    • Wines, Vistas & Beaches in Santorini Island, South Aegean, Greece:
      • 4 days and 3 nights at Cycladic-inspired El Greco Resort & Spa, full-day discover tour with wine tasting (VAT and all taxes included), English-speaking guide, welcome reception, 3 breakfast, 1 lunch, 2 dinners, support team, outdoor pools, indoor pools, children's pool, jacuzzis, fitness center, etc.
        • Platinum members get three exclusive tours on day 3.
      • Members pay $414/person for the total package.
      • Click here for more information. Other activities at the hotel that are not included in the price include restaurants, a poolside bar, and a spa. Walking distance to several landmark places.
      • Other package options in Greece that are less than $500 include DreamBreak, Greek Getaway to Olympus Riviera, Beaches, Wineries & Santorini Sunsets, and VolunTour. 
    • Architectural Wonders in Barcelona, Catalonia, Spain:
      • 4 days and 3 nights at Renaissance Barcelona Hotel, full-day tour (2 tours), English and Spanish speaking guide, welcome reception, 3 breakfasts, 1 lunch, 1 dinner, support team, fitness center, etc.
        • Platinum members get exclusive tours on day 3.
      • Members pay $439/person for the total package.
      • Click here for more information. Other activities at the hotel that are not included in the price include restaurants, bar, and spa.
      • Other package options in Spain that are less than $500 include 
  • North America: the packages I chose for this continent are $500 or less per person; however, you are welcome to view higher priced packages and/or look at longer vacation days.
    • Waterfalls and Wine in Quebec, Quebec, Canada:
      • 4 days and 3 nights at Quebec City Marriott Downtown (resort & guestroom taxes, and gratuities included), city tour (includes gratuities), welcome reception, 3 breakfast, 1 lunch, support team, fitness center, jogging trail, etc.
        • Special inclusion for platinum members
      • Members pay $289/person for the total package.
      • Click here for more information.
      • Other package options in Canada that are less than $500 include New York's Eve, Cityscapes & Nature Walks, See Toronto by Land & Sky, Waterfalls and Wine, and Cruise Around Alaska. 
    • Cinematic Sights in Monterey, California, United States:
      • 4 days 3 nights at Hyatt Regency Monterey Hotel and Spa on Del Monte Golf Course, Private Scenic Movie Tour (gratuities included), historic tour, 20 percent discount on treatments at the spa, discounted golf at Del Monte Golf Course (includes cart), welcome reception, 3 breakfasts, 1 lunch (during movie tour), support team, 2 outdoor pools, fitness center, etc.
        • Massive dessert special for platinum members that feed up to four.
      • Members pay $334/person for the total package.
      • Click here for more information.
      • Other package options in the United States that are less than $400 include New Orleans Charm & History, Wine Tasting Cruise, Water-Park Fun, Beer & International Foods, Red Rocks & Mountain Views, Desert Adventure, Spirits & Spice, DreamBreak, History & Intrigue, Whale Watching, NFL Experience, etc.  
Let's not forget about airfare. Here are some options:
I hope you enjoyed this post. If you want me to write more about traveling and vacationing, comment below. I'll talk to you soon...